One of my best friends l, ebbf, is leaving the state. Obviously, I’ve known for a little while that it was happening, but now it has a deadline. He leaves this weekend.
Luckily I was able to go spend a couple of hours with him. Masks and safety precautions for covid obviously in place.
My heart is so sad right now. Just in general, sometimes on specifics.
I couldn’t give him a hug. That hurt me a lot. And I have no idea when I’ll be able to see him again. I can’t fly anywhere until I’m vaccinated, and road tripping it also isn’t an option, because again covid and safety concerns. Not that I could ever get enough time off from work to drive across country anyways.
We’re making plans for the future. Mostly idly right now, of trips we can do together. I haven’t seen most of the Midwest or East Coast of the US. I’m looking forward to the adventures we could have. One the world is somewhat safe again for me to be moving about in. I’m really looking forward to trying my first official Philly cheesesteak. I will likely have to pay the price stomach/chronic illness wise, but that’s fine.
It does bring to light again how many connections I’ve lost. How many friends aren’t there anymore. Sometimes I wonder how many I truly have anymore. I am grateful for those that are still here and do my best to still be a good friend too.
I’m fighting various environments that make it hard to just not slip completely into depression again. Somewhere close to where I was 2 years ago.
I fight hard to not get there and do the things I can. But part of me always worries it’s not enough. That my friends will think I don’t care about them as much as I do because actions right now are very hard for me. Not for a lack of wanting to do them, just because I barely know what day it is anymore.
I’m in a place where my brain wants to do a lot of things. Even for myself. It’s not that I can’t feel joy or desire, I just can’t seem to act on them. I’ll lay there in bed and think about how much I want to write a story, but I can’t get my body to get up and move to the computer. Or if I manage to get my iPad, no more than a few sentences seem to happen.
I wish I was in a place to be back in therapy. Maybe that could help me figure out what this block is. I know what do if I had no desires and lost all interest again, but I don’t know what this is. I don’t know what tools I need to get through this. Maybe it’s because I don’t have space to myself like before. There’s a level of always having to be on.
I’m just feeling incredibly lonely right now, and guilty because of the things I want to, but can’t seem to complete for people I care about. Things I have started months ago; or finished months ago. I have presents that haven’t been mailed. Sitting in boxes in my closet because somehow the post office feels like too much.
I’ll think it’s been a week and it’s been months.
I know ultimately I need to give myself a timeline. I need to start my journal again. I need to set a schedule to accomplish the things I want to. Knowing and doing though, right?